Change is constant and permanent- Reinvent yourself.

The other day, I was reading an article in a magazine on ‘Why Reinvention is necessary for an Organization to sustain and succeed in Business’. The writer had stressed upon various issues stating as to why an organization, needs to keep reinventing itself, to compete with its competitors and to sustain in the business as well. That is when a thought crossed my mind. Is reinvention necessary only for an organization? Is it not necessary for the individual? As the saying goes ‘The only thing that is constant and permanent is change’. As an individual, it is essential for us to keep reinventing ourselves, to succeed in life and also to compete with our own selves.

It is necessary for an individual to keep learning new skills and acquiring more knowledge.  It is sometimes amazing to hear people in their fifty’s and sixty’s, talk about a new Application or a Tool relating to some software and the younger generation not making head or tail of it. It is equally amazing to come across some people, who are resistant to change and are happy being in their comfort zone. As long as you are happy and satisfied in your comfort zone, everything may seem just fine. But never give yourself a chance to complain in the future, that you should have probably taken that opportunity to reinvent yourself and change. Just as how an overhauling would do much good to a car, enabling it to perform better, similarly reinventing oneself would do as much as good to the individual. It will open the doors of opportunity and widen the spectrum of learning and experience.

At one point in life, we all reach that cross road where we are undecided and confused with the way our career or life is going. There are some, who would have made it in their careers and achieved all their dreams and yet would have reached that point of saturation and boredom, not knowing the next course of action. There are others, who may have not been as successful in making a career for themselves and are confused and disappointed with the way their life has taken them.  It is at this stage, that people realize that probably they should have taken the effort to reinvent themselves. But then it becomes too late when things have gone beyond control. When we resist change, it creates internal conflict. It leads to low self esteem and lack of confidence.  Never give an opportunity to complain about yourself. Opportunities are plenty. Make use of them.

I should confess here that it was this process of reinvention, which opened the opportunities for me as a blogger. All along I had been happy in my comfort zone, being the dutiful homemaker. But then I realized that apart from being a homemaker I need to do something extra to make myself happy. It was this reinvention, which has now given me the identity as a writer and blogger.

Reinventing oneself allows us to consider things from different angles. We do not lose our original identity but just add another dimension to it. It helps us to snap out of our boredom and monotony. It transforms us an individual and we can look forward to something new. Be it at workplace or at home, do not shy away from learning something different. The point is to learn and do something ‘Out of the Ordinary’.

Visualize how you want to see yourself 3 years down the line and not 10 years. Be practical in your dreams and goals. 10 years is a long way to go.

Strive to achieve your dreams and aspirations. Keep constantly looking out for opportunities to reinvent yourself, so that you will not become redundant.

It always seems impossible until it’s done. Nelson Mandela.

Be patient with yourself. Reinvention does not mean, performing miracles in a day or two where you learn the new skills in a day’s time and master it in a week’s time. Go slow but be steady. One day when you pause to reflect about how much you have evolved as a person, you will find a happier YOU!

Don’t worry when you are not recognized, but strive to be worthy of recognition. Reinvent yourself. Abraham Lincoln.

Maryan-Movie Review

                                       

       

                                              Maryan (Tamil)

Cast:                           Dhanush, Parvathy Menon, Appukutty and Salim Kumar.

Directed by:               Bharat Bala

Written by:                 Bharat Bala

Music:                        A.R.Rahman

The Story:

‘Maryan’ is the story of a fisherman played by Dhanush. Maryan (Dhanush), lives in a village by the sea called Neerodi. He has a special bonding with the sea and calls himself ‘Kadal Rasa’ which means, ‘The Prince of the Ocean’. Panimalar ( Parvathy Menon), falls in love with Maryan and shows no inhibitions in confessing her love for him. However, Maryan tries to rebuff her advances towards him. Eventually, Maryan falls in love with Panimalar.

Due to unfortunate circumstances, Maryan is faced with a situation where he needs to support Panimalar financially and therefore, takes up a job in Sudan, for two years on contract basis.

After completing with the two years assignment in Sudan, when Maryan decides to come back to his motherland, that is when tragedy strikes in the form of Sudanese terrorists who kidnap Maryan and two of his co-workers. Maryan and his friend are held in captivity, the Sudanese terrorists demanding a ransom in return to set them free. Maryan escapes from the terrorists after being in captivity for twenty-one days.  How Maryan makes good his escape from a foreign land, the struggles that he faces during the days of captivity and escape and whether he unites with his ladylove back home, form the second half of the movie.

Review:

Should say that, Maryan’s struggles and his escape from the terrorists, is the main crux of the movie, ‘Maryan’ is nothing less than a poetry. In this age of masala movie making, where formula movies work and is the order of the day, ‘Maryan’ is like a breeze amongst the storm, especially for the Tamil film industry.

However, there are some loopholes and flaws here and there. ‘Maryan’ loses its poetry in the second half, when the movie transcends continents and moves to Sudan. There is a feeling of incompleteness.There is more melodrama and somewhere, the director seems to have wavered in the plot.

Talking about the actors, Dhanush has once again excelled as an actor and has really come a very long way from his early days. Nothing more needs to be said about the actor because; Dhanush has once again proved his mettle and acting capabilities with this movie. If there is one actor who can emote well and at the same time underplay his emotions with subtlety, the credit has to be given to this actor.

Parvathy Menon! Where was she all this while? Is this the actor who had acted in ‘Poo’? Be it when she confesses her love to Maryan and every time he rebuffs her or when she learns from his friend that Maryan may after all be in love with her or when she learns of his captivity in Sudan through a phone call, this lady for sure knows how to captivate the audience with her acting prowess.

Nothing needs to be said about the actors who have acted as the Sudanese terrorists. They just look like a bunch of sloppy kids.

I have never been a big fan of A.R.Rahman and as everybody says, to really like his songs, you need to listen to them a couple of times. But not ‘Maryan’. I took an instant liking to all the songs the very first time I heard the Album. And yes, the songs are on a repeat mode not because I am trying to like them, but because I have fallen in love with them.

'Maryan’ has some breathtaking visuals, thanks to the Cinematographer Marc Koninckx.

Would say that ‘Maryan’ is worth a watch for a wonderfully talented star cast, excellent music, breathtaking visuals and more so, if you want to watch a poetry written on screen.                                           

Bhaag Milkha Bhaag-Movie Review

                      

                                 Bhaag Milkha Bhaag (Hindi).

Cast:                  Farhan Akhtar, Sonam Kapoor, Prakash Raj and Divya Dutta.

Directed by:      Rakeysh Om Praksh Mehra.

Written By:       Prasoon Joshi.

Music:               Shankar- Ehsaan- Loy.

The Story:

‘Bhaag Milkha Bhaag’ is a biopic on Milkha Singh, an athlete, who is also known as ‘TheFlying Sikh’. It is the story of a young boy, who is caught in the chaos caused by the India- Pakistan partition, which results in riots and commotion in the Punjab part of Pakistan. Milkha Singh’s (Farhan Akhtar) parents are killed in the riot and he moves to Delhi, where he meets his sister (Divya Dutta). Singh gets into the habit of stealing and later falls in love with Biro (Sonam Kapoor). However, Biro advices Milkha to lead an honest life.

Later Milkha Singh joins the Indian army. Milkha Singh gets noticed by the Sergeant (Prakash Raj) in the army and gets selected for the Melbourne Olympics. He trains hard for the Olympics, but loses the race. Later when he comes back to India, Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru, tells him to lead the Indian Team to Pakistan, for friendly races. However, when he reaches Pakistan, Milkha Singh is once again haunted by the childhood memories of his parents and the last words that were spoken by his dying father were, ‘Bhaag Milkha Bhaag’. It were these very words, which were said by a coach in the 1960 Olympic Games in Rome, which resulted in him dropping to the fourth position. However, later Milkha Singh wins in several places including Pakistan and it is the Pakistani Commander, who gives him the title ‘The Flying Sikh’.

Review:

Must say, that the movie is a perfect tribute to ‘The Flying Sikh’. Except for some melodrama and songs, which need some justification, the film is a must watch for all to get motivated and inspired, from the life of Milkha Singh.

Farhan Akhtar fits the bill as Milkha Singh and it is shown, that he has taken all the efforts and has gone that extra mile, to live and look like the legend.Kudos to him to have portrayed the character well.

Though Sonam Kapoor has nothing much to do in the film, she has played her part well and looks nothing like the fashion diva that she is in real life. That is the way she has been expected to look and she has done justice to the role.

The film has been well supported by other casts like Prakash Raj, Pavan Malhotra (as the coach who grooms Milkha Singh) and Divya Dutta (as Milkha Singh’s sister).

Music by Shankar- Ehsaan- Loy is good, but the background score sometimes makes one feel sad.

Must give credits to Binod Pradhan for the outstanding cinematography and amazing visuals.

However, the editing could have been better and this would have helped to cut the lengthy duration of the film, which runs for 188 minutes. The film is slow paced and is a little too long. Rather should say, the film jogs here and there.

Would say that ‘Bhaag Milkha Bhaag’ is a must watch for some inspirational moments.

Marriages are made in Heaven!! Oh...Really? - Funny Facts about Marriage.

In one of my previous article ‘I can get along …I cannot’, I had written on a serious note, as to why compatibility is important for the modern day marriage or relationship. Most of us have our highs and lows in a relationship, especially with our better half (Who is better here? The husband or the wife? I leave it to the readers to decide.) On a lighter vein, I wish to share with the readers some interesting facts about marriage and the humorous side of it.

Facts about Marriage:

1. Marriage is like a deck of cards. In the beginning, all we need is two hearts. By the end, we wish we had a club and a spade.
2. It is said that Marriages are made in Heaven and ordained from above, but so are hurricanes ordained from above.
3. Marriage is successful, as long as the husband and wife work as partners. The trouble begins, when they try to establish an identity of their own and make it a sole proprietorship.
4. Every man wants a beautiful, understanding and a smart wife who likes to cook. Remember to make sure, that you do not let all the four women meet.
5. In the first year of marriage, the husband will pull out the chair for the wife to sit. However, a couple of years down the line, they will be pulling out at each other’s hair.
6. There must be a give and take policy in marriage. The husband gives and the wife takes.
7. Communication is important for a successful marriage and this is the way it goes…The wife is docile and demure. Therefore, the husband speaks and the wife listens in the first year. In the second year, there is a reversal of role. Now the husband is docile and demure. The wife speaks and the husband listens. In the third year, the husband and wife speak and the neighbors listen.
8. Compromising is important in marriage….the wife and husband always compromise. The wife is always right and the husband always agrees.
9. Until we get married, we are not complete but after marriage, we stay confused.
10. This one is for the men. If you are wrong and stay quiet, you are wise, but if you are right and stay silent, it means that you are married.

Marriages are indeed made in heaven and no marriage is perfect. It is the flaws in marriage that add to the charm.

As somebody said” My wife and I were happy for twenty-five years, until we met.”

To write or not to write.......That is the question. Why is connecting with the readers important for a good writer?

The other day, I happened to read a write up in a newspaper on Ravinder Singh or popularly known as Ravin. Ravinder Singh is the author of ‘I too had a Love Story’ and ‘Can Love Happen Twice?’ both breezy romantic novels. Ravinder Singh is one amongst the many new generation writers, who enjoys a huge fan following, not because of his wisest choice of words and style of writing, but because of the depth and the way in which he connects with the readers. Ravinder Singh himself had once agreed that, although he was not very strong in grammar and punctuations, he was passionate about writing because he was able to connect with the younger generation.

It is this style and aspect of writing, that which makes a Ravinder Singh, a Chetan Bhagat or an Amish Tripathi  stand out from the group of elite writers who use the choicest of words and diction which the reader fails to comprehend and runs for a dictionary or Google the word, to understand the meaning. No, and please do not take offence here. I am not criticizing the classy writers and their fans, to each his own. Each writer has his/her own style of writing. It takes a lot of a pain and years of struggle to become an established writer. What I am trying to say is that, it is very important for a writer to connect with the readers and it is only when a writer connects with the readers, can he/she sustain as a creditable writer.

Writing had always been a passion for me. However, the pleasure and pressure of becoming a Commerce graduate, made me take up an altogether different course of study away from my passion. I must say, now, I have become a blogger by choice and by chance. It was the three to five hours of free time that I had in hand, made me get back to what I most loved doing- Writing/Blogging. Blogging gives me a sense of satisfaction and pleasure. I am able to connect with my readers and share my opinions and views with so many known and unknown friends.

This article is especially for those friends and readers who have time and are passionate about writing. You may be a stay at home mommy or a working from home homemaker and still have time for yourself. If you like to write or blog start right away. Writing or blogging is not rocket science. All that you need is the inkling to write. You must be willing to share with the world your ideas and opinions, without inhibitions. Just write what you have in your mind, on any topic or issue, but remember to connect with the reader. There is so much to write about. It could be a short story, which you can share, or an e- book, which is the ‘in thing’ now. Blogging is one of the best options for budding writers. It can help you in the early days to connect with the readers and read their pulse, so that you can judge what they expect from you and what you are good at. It is not necessary that you have to have an excellent command over the English language and be an authority in Grammar and Punctuations, all you need to know is that, you should have a decent knowledge of the language and a good flow of thoughts to write. If you have the fire in you to write and can write in such a way, that the readers lap up your style of writing, you have been rewarded for your effort. To me, getting an additional ‘like’ in my blog page and every increase in the number count of the page views is an achievement.

So, all you readers out there who are passionate about writing and who wish to blog, what are you waiting for? Start right away and let the world know, how good a writer you are.

Let me give some quick tips on blogging/ writing.

First, determine what you want to write about. Remember, if it is a blog keep the article fairly short and simple. A blog is for a light read. Do not write like an essay in history. The article should be interesting and there should be a connect with the readers. You will get responses from the readers depending on how well you are able to build a rapport with them.

Building a relationship is very important for a successful writer. Try to tell a story and involve the readers in the story. Most of us are sailing in the same boat. We are all human beings and have our emotional ups and downs. Writing about true to life incidents, will help the readers to understand the article better.

Be true to what you are writing. A good writer will not only give a good article, but his/her personality is also shown in the style of writing.

Write from the perspective of the reader. The reader tries to live his dreams and follow his passion through the works of the writer.

Last but not the least; write about what appeals interesting to you. Only when you enjoy your own writing, will it appeal to the readers as well and in that way you can have a captive audience.

I would rather be a Preethi Shenoy and connect with my readers, than be a Jane Austin, because every reader that I earn, is worth a million awards for me.

I can get along....I cannot - Why is Compatibility important in the modern day Relationship?

Rajiv and Upasana have been married for three years. In recent times, they have been facing many issues in their marriage. The time they spent together had reduced and they had almost stopped communicating. They had started arguing over small issues. They could never agree upon the program that they watched on television or the restaurant that they went to eat on weekends. They had started to find fault with each other over trivial issues and though both of them realized, that there was no justification in their arguments, their ego stood between them. They did not care to apologize or resolve the issue. They termed it as ‘Compatibility’ problem.

The Mishra’s have been married for twenty-eight years. Their marriage life has weathered many storms but still they were happy with each other and enjoyed each other’s company.  Mr. Mishra had once financially lost a couple of lakhs in shares and trade, which he had not disclosed to his wife. When Mrs. Mishra later came to know of it, she felt cheated. However, as time passed she was able forgive him and move on. Now, although they have been married for twenty-eight years, they were the best of couple and companions. The degree of compatibility is more in the second example than the first one. Be it three years or twenty eight years, it is not the number of years but it is the element of understanding, that which is important for a successful relationship.

In one of my previous articles on Relationship, I had mentioned that lack of compatibility is an important reason for marriages turning sour. What is this word compatibility? Why has the term gained such an important status in the modern day relationship?

Compatibility means when two people have the same opinion and view on matters that are of significant importance to both of them and are able to reach an agreeable decision. Compatibility is necessary for all relationships but is most important between the man and wife.

 Nobody is perfect. All of us have our flaws. Is there anybody who can say that they have never had an argument with their partner? All of us have difference of opinions on various issues because every individual is a separate entity. However, the fact is how soon are we able to resolve our differences and move ahead. When problems are not resolved and when agreeable decisions are not reached, that is when compatibility issues arise. Having an argument is healthy for a relationship. Only when two people interact and give their own ideas and views on matters of importance, can both the partners look at the flip side of their views. However, compatibility issues crop up when the argument is for a silly reason and when there is no justification for the difference of opinions.

People who are facing compatibility issues should look at the bigger picture of life. Just a few moments of disagreement does not mean that you are having compatibility problems or having frequent arguments also does not mean that you are facing a storm in your relationship. Self-introspection is necessary to realize where the fault lies and with whom?  It is essential to remember that it is not the intensity of the problem, but it is blowing the problem out of proportion that which causes compatibility issues. I know of people who are poles apart in their personality but are the best of partners in life because they complement each other. This is what keeps the relationship thriving.

There are three C’s that which are essential and complement compatibility.

Communication is very important for a marriage to succeed. The more we communicate the lesser are the conflicts. If there are any unresolved issues that need attention, DO NOT postpone resolving them. There is no problem in the world that cannot be resolved if we take the time to sit down and talk. However, if it is best to just sleep over the issue then it is better to maintain silence because time will ease the problem. Nevertheless, deciding to sit down and talk or to maintain silence depends on the intensity of the problem and the approach of the partners because they are the best judge to decide about their priorities.

Companionship is essential for a successful married life. Treat your partner like a friend. Just as how we would forgive, our friends, for the mistakes that they make, learn to forgive your partner as well for the small mistakes that he/she commits. Never blow small issues out of proportion. When you have committed the mistake, do not hesitate to say a sorry. It is not going to cost you anything .Let go of the ego, which is the biggest enemy to any relationship.

Compromising is another important element for a successful marriage. Always have a give and take policy. There is nothing to lose by giving in once awhile.  Never play the blame game. As somebody said”In marriage, compromise nurtures the relationship. It is about doing something, even when you don’t want to”

Life is short. We are the best judge to decide whether we have compatibility or not with our partner. Never let an outsider interfere and decide for you because;

“There are a lot of people in the world. No one ever sees everything the same way you do; it just doesn't happen. So, when you find one person who gets a couple of things, especially if they're important ones... you might as well hold on to them. You know”

How I wish that you too knew......What men expect the women to know.

The response to the article on “How I wish that you knew…..What women want the men to know” was overwhelming. As said earlier, men are from Mars and women are from Venus. All the women could connect very well with the article. Not that the men could not relate to it or that, the article was beyond their understanding, it is just that all the male friends who read it, chose to remain silent because, ignoring the message was easier than getting committed. Men will always be men. Being from Venus the women are a generous lot, though we do show our shades of grey at times. I would not like to deny the men from the benefit of sharing their opinions and views on “What Men Expect from the Women”. Therefore, here is a list of the unspoken words of men pertaining to what they wish that the women knew. It is not a comprehensive list that I have shared here. There may be more to the list, which the readers can add, if they wish to.

Men want the women to give as much as importance to their game talk, just as how much of an importance the women expect from the men, in their girlish talk. Be it a discussion on the current affairs, news or some new App. that has been introduced, it may be boring and a drag for the women, but just lend your ears and listen to them.

Just as how women want the men to appreciate them and tell them that they look beautiful, men expect as much of an acknowledgment from the women.

Never nag a man. He may be the next embodiment of Lord Buddha in patience, but nagging will have reversal effects and may turn him into the next villain of a movie.

Acting silly and innocent is okay once a while, but showing it too often will make the women look dumb.

Never hurt the male ego. Just as how the women do not like the men to compare them with their mother, the men expect that the women do not compare them with their father.  Therefore, even if your father treated you like a princess and your husband treats you like a ‘living thing’, act as if, you are being treated like a queen. Acting once a while, will atleast earn you an award from your husband if not from the film federation.

Never end an argument with ‘Fine’ because, it will end the argument temporarily but in the mind, “The argument continues.”

Never bring the man’s mother as a part of an argument unnecessarily. It will later require damage control.

Men like the women to show them some respect in front of their parents and relatives. Therefore, you may act like Tom and Jerry at home, but never forget to project your husband as a Spiderman, Superman or Batman who has come to protect you, if not the world.

Women should also realize that, just as how they have their priorities set right, men have their priorities as well. Again, it is the order that differs. Show interests in their careers and passions.

Do not expect the men to understand your girlish talk and gossips. Just like how we do not understand their ’intellectual’ talk, they cannot understand ‘girlish' talks.

If they wish to spend their time in front of the television, just let them be. Do not wait forever with the expectation that they will turn their attention to you. That is never going to happen, when they are immersed in an engrossing program or a movie.

Men always have selective amnesia. They will fail to remember what was said a couple of days ago. So do not try to remind them about it in your present argument, it is just a waste of time.

Last but not the least; never make the mistake of expecting too much from the men because, men will always be men. They would love to spend more time with their iPad, Laptop and friends at any given day, because they are made that way. Not that they do not wish to spend quality time with us, it is just that women are too much of a complicated species for the men to understand. That is why they find it easier to work with the most complex of the gadgets and machines, because women are way beyond the understanding capabilities of the men.

Are posts and status updates in Facebook a reflection of our emotions?

Chetna had been facing some bad days both at workplace and in her personal life. Life did not seem  hunky dory all of a sudden. She was getting into a severe mode of depression and felt, that she had lost her happiness somewhere. Work was getting stressful and she was having some compatibility problems with her husband. She had a small circle of friends with whom she shared her problems, but that did not ease her pain. Chetna wanted to express her inner turmoil and emotions but she did not know how to go about it. She did not have a clue about how to ease her depressed mental state.

That night, after coming back from work Chetna decided to login to Facebook. It had been ages and she felt that probably looking at the updates of her relatives and friends would  divert her from her own problems for some time. She came across a couple of photos that had been uploaded by some of her friends. Some of them had shared beautiful quotes, which described how life was being so nice and lucky for them. One read, “The world around me looks so colorful.” Somebody’s status update read, “One thing you can’t hide is when you are crippled inside.”One friend had shared some beautiful images, which said

Seeing these status updates Chetna realized that, most of her friends were sharing their positive and negative emotions in Facebook. Chetna felt that probably sharing her inner turmoil to the outside world would lessen her burden and ease her pain. Chetna shared an image in her Facebook timeline and posted a status update, which read, “The more importance you give to somebody in your life you lose your importance in their life”. She felt a little relaxed and was feeling much light at heart.

The above situation is typical of most of the Facebook profiles that we come across every day. How many of us post a status update or share an image, which indirectly reflects our mental state of mind and emotional stress? In my opinion as a Society, we have started to depend on Facebook, Twitter and other social networks to express our smallest of irritations or the biggest of problems. I am not going to say whether this expression of our mental status on Social network sites is good or bad. I am going to leave it for the readers to judge and give their opinions. All I wish to say is that it is easier to express ourselves to the world and speak our mind hiding behind a wall.

These status updates are but a reflection of the desperate need for attention that brings us to express our feelings in social networks. However, this opinion is not a general statement and such updates depend on the personality of the individual as well. Some would want to share even the slightest of irritation through a Facebook post, while there are others who can actually maintain the balance between the real life and the virtual one.

Facebook, Twitter or any Social network are a great platform to share with the outside world our ideas, photos, videos and jokes. It is great to let the outside world know how happy we are and let the world also feel elated about it. It is indeed good to share our happiness with our friends and relatives because when we share our happiness the world will  smile with us.

However, to me personally, sharing our depressed mental state of mind in social networks is a no-no because it is better to deal with our emotional stress directly rather than fighting with it through social networks. It is better to share our pain with a selected few rather than letting the world know about it. It is a very delicate and sensitive situation. It may sometimes have a negative effect. As said earlier this greatly depends on the personality of the individual. Such updates in social network sides could be therapeutic to many and may have a negative impact on some.

According to a recent study Facebook and Twitter has become a widely used communication platform. We have come to depend so much on Facebook through which we exhibit our emotions to the outside world. 

Now let me ask something. Does expressing our emotions in Facebook give us a sense of a reassurance that everything is fine? Are we becoming emotionally and mentally strong by expressing ourselves in Facebook? These are some questions to ponder and require some self-reflection.

How I wish that you knew.......What women want the men to know.

Whoever said that ’Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’ should have probably known that, the quote shall be used for generations to come. The women are the most mysterious species on Earth. They are not a mystery only to men but are also a mystery to another woman. I totally disagree with the idea that, only a woman can understand a woman better. It is a hypothetical statement. A woman can understand another woman no better than a man because, a woman will only reveal what she wants to reveal even to her female friends.

Women always expect others to comprehend and understand their unspoken wishes and words especially the male species in this Earth. This is something that has been going on for centuries. This presumption has not changed, with the changes of time and advancement of science and technology. Probably now that the women are more outspoken and have the freedom to air their opinions, some of their unspoken wishes have come to light. However, the list of wishes that I am going to share with you is just a few drops of water from an ocean.

·        Women always like to be admired and loved. They expect their men to be open in their thought with respect to the admiration. They expect to be told that they are beautiful even if it is a lie.

·        The best way to woo a woman is to surprise her with little gifts and flowers. Take her out on surprise dates and there will be peace at home for the next four to five days.

·        Never wait for the women to tell you to share the household chores. They expect the men to initiate it and share the responsibility as well. Cleaning up the house together can be more fun, than doing it all alone. Men should remember that if you want some appreciation from your woman, there could be no better way than helping her out with the cleaning and sharing the household chores.

·        Men should realize that just how they have their priorities set right women have their priorities as well. It is just that the order differs. Show interests in their careers and passions.

·        Women expect their men to spend quality and quantity time with them. Therefore, men please keep aside your iPad’s and Laptops and spare some time for the woman in your life. Better still if you can cook up a meal over the weekend for your woman giving her the well-deserved break you are blessed for life!

·        Men Beware! Never ever, make the mistake of comparing your girlfriend or wife to your mother. You are doomed forever. The girlfriend or your wife will like your mother but she will never appreciate your comparison with her. Every woman has her own identity.

·        A woman always likes her man to have a sense of humor but never make the mistake of making her the butt of joke.

·         Appreciate her circle of friends and make an effort to know them.  Just as how the men expect that their women entertain their friends, the same way learn to entertain her circle of friends.

·        A woman will never like it if her man was going to show his male chauvinism in front of relatives and friends. So please hold your strings back and be the ever-protective man.

·        It is okay if the men are going to have the final say in all-important matters and take the decision but also involve the woman in the discussion. Make her feel important even if she is going to give some silly suggestion.

·        Last but not the least it is okay if the men do not remember their birthdays but NEVER forget to remember your woman’s birthday or else you will be buried alive.

It is important that the man empathize with the woman in his life and the woman friends. Women do not want sympathy but some understanding from the men folk, after all women are from Venus.

Will come back soon with what the men expect from their women because they are a different species altogether –from ‘Mars’.